When I come home from work, I always check my messages, the news and Facebook for maybe something interested or terrible happened. So I came home, went on Facebook and see videos of a muslimah, who is wearing a headscarf, dancing in a club. The reactions were terrible and somehow it really got my intention and it’s not that crazy, because I wear a headscarf too.
It’s sad to see how people can react on videos like this. They find it unacceptable, but they are the ones who are sharing it?
Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) said: “Whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim in this world, Allah will conceal his faults in this world and in the hereafter.” – Hadith Muslim
Suddenly, we feel perfect. We react like our Imaan (faith) is sky-high. We don’t know what’s in her heart. I am not saying that what she did, is acceptable. But seeing her like that shows only one side of her. She may prays all her five prayers on time, fasts every monday and thursday, gives charity every week. We can’t look down on her, just because you saw her dancing in a club. Maybe she went from clubbing every week to clubbing once in a month. Maybe that day was her last day clubbing and she repent, but did you repent for sharing the video and your awful reaction? Again, I am not saying that it’s okay, it’s not, but neither is your reaction. We have to learn not to only think the right way, but also act the right way. You could have said: ‘May Allah forgive her. May Allah guide her.’
Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) said: “The supplication of a Muslim for his brother in his absence will certainly be answered. Everytime he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: ‘Ameen! May it be for you, too.’ ” – Hadith Muslim
Also, I couldn’t stand the people who came with the reaction: ‘She should take off her headscarf.’ Who are you to say something like that? Do you know what you are saying right now? So, if you do something wrong you can do everything wrong? Now everything that’s wrong is acceptable, because you made one mistake? Even if she made the same mistake a couple of times, does she really have to take off her hijab? That which Allah ordered? I ask you so many question, because I think that it’s one of the stupidest things I have ever heard. And unfortuntely, I have heard that many times before. Be proud of her wearing the headscarf, because it’s not an easy step. Mostly, I hear it from guys. You don’t and never will know how it feels like, so you should never say something like that.
I know the problem wouldn’t be that big if there’s any other girl dancing in the club, it could even be a muslimah without a heardscarf. When you wear a headscarf, if you like it or not, you represent the Islam. You actually chose it yourself by wearing it. You should know that the hijab tells others: ‘Look I am a Muslimah. I am not perfect, but I try to be the best I can.’ Clubbing is something that is not permissible in Islam. So, if you go out and even dance in a certain way, you should understand why people may think: ‘But she is a muslim?’ They can and maybe even will think differently (about Islam – that’s incorrect-) when they see you like that.
Of course you can’t judge others without knowing what’s in their hearts. I will give you an example: There’s is a muslim guy. He comes often to the supermarket, where I work, and once in a while he buys cigarettes. One day, it was before Ramadan last year, he said to me that he wanted to stop. He knows that smoking is impermissible. He just started one day and now he wants to quit. It isn’t that easy, but he said he will try. He still smokes, but he tries. Does he try hard enough? I don’t know, but Allah knows and that’s enough. If he tells me,’ ya ukhti (oh sister), I don’t want to stop. I am not even going to try!’, that would be a different story. As long we don’t know what’s in someone’s heart, I think it’s safer for us to just pray for them instead of jumping to conclusions.
For the ones that sin publicly and say: ‘Only Allah can judge me.’ I’ve read somewhere: ‘Judge yourself before you are judged.’ If someone sends you a sincere message and gives you advice, accept it. Because not always you are conscious about what you are doing. We should help each other, conceal each others sins, give advice and make du’a.
Forgive me if I said anything wrong. This is first of all a reminder to myself.
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